Why You Should Give ValueWhen you give for reasons other than hoping to receive something, you start winning the long game.
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When was the last time you gave or did something without expecting anything in return?
Giving doesn’t mean you’re automatically owed something, but many of us act with the assumption we’ll get a return on our actions. This is an attitude we should try to change.
Most people feel the need to repay a small gift or favour, and the giver would probably expect something in return. This attitude is not good for long-term gain.
Instead, to build and maintain relationships, there should be a value exchange, where we give value without expecting to receive. It’s this that will create a significant impact and leave a positive legacy.
Use the 49/51 principle
This principle simply means you should be able to give without receiving; so you are happy to give more to a person than they offer you. If you are comfortable providing 51% (or more!) in a relationship, then this is a good foundation for the future.
If, on the other hand, you give 50% and expect the other person to provide an equal 50%, your impact won’t be as significant and your relationship less fruitful.
If you give with the expectation of receiving, then the other person will feel guilt and pressure to give something back.
Although this can benefit you in the short term as you gain immediately from your actions, you won’t leave as great a legacy as someone who cares more about giving than receiving.
You win when you give without expectation
When you give for reasons other than hoping to receive something, you start winning the long game.
By giving without expectation of a return, you can never lose and have everything to gain.
If a person does return the favour/gift, it will be a bonus rather than a requirement.
And if you get nothing in return or less than you would have previously expected, you haven’t lost as you will have made a positive impact on someone.
Everyone should be wanting to be the giver in a relationship, and not be the one who’s out for what they can get.
Pay it forward
When you give, you should hope the other person carries on the goodwill. It is when people give without the expectation of receiving that good gestures spread.
It can be as easy as smiling at someone, who then may smile at someone else, and so it continues. This culture of giving may not provide you with any immediate gain, but it creates a climate of goodwill.
It will make the world a nicer place to live in than one where everyone is wanting something from everyone else. And eventually, from doing good deeds, they will come back and reward you.
So what should you learn from this? Be the giver. It isn’t always easy but overall it will make you the winner.
Not everyone will leave a universal, world-wide legacy from their actions. But even if you just make a positive impact on the people you meet, that legacy is just as valuable.
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